Nollywood actress Chika Ike spoke of her failed marriage with ex-husband Tony Eberiri. The couple were dated before getting married in 2006 and falling apart in 2013. Here are excerpts from the interview:
Three years ago, your marriage crashed, do you think getting married at a young age was a disadvantage or had anything to do with the way it ended?
I think it has to do with so many reasons; one of them might be being young. Some people get married that young and have been able to make their marriages work. But if you’re young, you’re young.
There are some things you’ve not experienced. You might not be able to stay calm when you’re supposed to stay calm, understand when you’re supposed to understand or leave what you’re supposed to leave.
I think it has to do with age and so many other things like compatibility and not being true to yourself in the marriage. Everybody has a limit. There are some things in marriage that you might not be able to stand. Some people’s limit might not be my limit; my limit might be somebody’s starting point.
It is being rumoured that you are set to give marriage another trial, how true is this?
Marriage is a beautiful institution. I will never talk down on marriage because it’s something I still look forward to. It’s what every woman hopes for. Though I’m focused on my career right now, I do have a very special person in my life.
Looking back into your life, would you say you regret any of your actions?
I don’t really like looking back at life in such a way because I see everything you do in life as a learning process. I am not somebody that would not try and later start skulking and wishing it had never happened. Of course, I will feel bad, but I don’t allow that to weigh me down. I just have to move on and take it as one of the lessons in life. That way, it makes you stronger.
What lessons has life has taught you?
Life has taught me one thing; to be focused amidst all issues. I have learnt to keep moving and get myself above situations. Whether you like or not, there must be haters. Everybody can’t like you. If you are loved by all, then you should be very careful and start asking yourself if you are doing the right thing. It’s normal. It has taught me that life is full of ups and downs. It has also taught me to be patient.