Pls post dis urgently cus am loosing it here i av so many tins going on in my mind right now n I don't knw how to go abt it. I am a single mother I love my son so very much dt i can hardly eat dis days bcoz am missing him, it's been 2 months now av not seen my son bcoz am currently serving in Edo state so I had to leave my son wit my mom in Lagos since July. I have a boyfriend that has always been der for me every since my baby father left witout looking back, I av tried my best to make sure he at least take care of his child but he has neva given me 1k for my son b4 so I went to his dad too n he's dad was acting as if he will take care of my child but ever since den he stopped calling or pick my calls so I decided to move on wit my life, wit d help of my mum I went back to school. My problem is my boyfriend has been jobless n has been job hunting ever since have known him but he has been supporting me n my son wit d little he as, wen i got to Benin(where am serving) I started going frm one place to another if I can get him a job here in Benin yes!!!! I was able to get him a job here(35k to 70k per month depending on d numbers of hours he worked in a month but not less dan 35k) so he moved down here some weeks now n we re staying together in a room. I told him I want to bring my son down here dt am incomplete without him, since he has a job now we can still manage wit my little allowee n enrol him in a school here. Self contain is very cheap here 5 to 7k per month we can move to one by December, he said after my service (nysc) we can start wit introduction but, he doesn't want me to bring my son over he said my son is wit my mom meaning he's in good hands dt we can send my mom his school fees but I'm missing him so much I feel like he won't let my son live with us even if we eventually get married, am his mother n am still alive I can't let anyone train my son for me. Pls family, I just want to knw if am taking d right decision bring my son over, is it also right staying wit a guy am not yet married to n I noticed dt ever since we start staying together I am not sexually active anymore unlike b4 I don't allow him touch me n he has been complaining about dt. Pls don't judge me just try n put ursef in my shoes b4 u comment, mind u am 27 years old n he's 30, my son is almost 4 years n my bf is a graduate too since 2011, he's a good man he loves me so much n care a lot abt me, I just want to knw if am doing d right tin cuz right now am so confused, am a mother I feel like my world is crashing without my son wit me. Thank you very much I will b reading comments.
Saturday, 17 September 2016